How to Stop Worrying About Things You Cannot Control
You cannot think your way to control over things that are not yours to control. Here is a simpler, kinder move that actually reduces the worry.
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Worry and Uncertainty
The What-If Spiral: Why It Never Ends
A single what-if branches into a tree of catastrophes that never stops growing. Here is why the spiral has no bottom, and how to step off it.
Overthinking the Future: Planning vs Worrying
Thinking ahead is useful. Worrying about the future is not. They can feel identical, so here is how to keep the planning and drop the dread.
How to Build Tolerance for Uncertainty
The real cure for chronic worry is not more answers. It is the ability to sit with not knowing. Here is how to build that capacity, one rep at a time.
Solvable vs Unsolvable Worry: A Simple Sorting Test
Not all worry is the same. One kind deserves a plan. The other only responds to letting go. Confusing them keeps you stuck.
Anticipatory Anxiety: Dreading Things Before They Happen
Sometimes the waiting is worse than the event. Anticipatory anxiety is why, and there are specific ways to make the dread before an event smaller.
Why Worrying Feels Like It Keeps You Safe
Part of you believes worry is protective, which is exactly why it is so hard to give up. Here is where that belief comes from and why it is mistaken.
Scheduled Worry Time: Does It Actually Work?
Setting an appointment for your worries sounds absurd. It is also one of the more effective tricks for getting worry out of the rest of your day.
Catastrophizing: How to Spot It and Talk Yourself Down
Catastrophizing rushes you to the worst possible outcome and calls it realism. Here is how to catch it and bring your thinking back to earth.
How to Worry Less Without Becoming Careless
A common fear about quieting worry is that you will stop caring and let things slide. Here is why the opposite tends to happen.